Who First Taught You About Sex and Pregnancy?

Who first taught you about sex and pregnancy

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  1. I had parents who were very willing to talk to me about sex, but I never used them because the subject was uncomfortable. I went to a church camp in high school, and they showed a film about a girl becoming pregnant which introduced the conversation of abortion. I was so ignorant I thought they were talking about divorce. I do not think I ever had a sex education course during my public school years, which makes me very proud about the way it is taught to fifth graders in Tacoma, Washington, where I teach now. I went to college knowing the plumbing of sex, but having no idea about anything else. I became sexually active as a sophomore, and I thank God my partner, who became my wife, had enough education to make me wait a month until her pill took effect. This is one area of my charmed life. We have now been married forty years, and I have remained a one-woman man. I sometimes think back to how ignorant I was and think how lucky I was to not have fallen into some trap.
  2. evil older brother, sexual abuser by the time I was only 8, eventually in 7th grade biology I realized what would happen if he ever got fully inside so I stood up for my self and told him if ever touched me again I'd stab him to death - he stopped bothering me after that but still found excuses to beat me until one time the cops were called so he starts lying to justify: shes a whore & other lies about his own sister but the cop could tell what a piece of human waste he was and wanted to arrest him and what does mother say? "will ruin him" all phony crying like she ever gave a shit about me other than as a pawn to trade for male supremacist favors. Imagine how many girls have to live like in supposedly great USA. I blame government of men by men for men who do not want women to know their rights *consent* because thats how the patriarchy justifies its abusing of women into breeding for them. Males deserve to be Eunuchs -as in if more more girls chopped it off with impunity, there would be less rape.
  3. I was first made aware of sex at about the age of 7, though only as a concept I learned from overhearing older kids on the bus. It wasn't until I was about 10 or eleven that my mother began conversation with me about sex, when I was in year 9 at school we received basic sex education from a completely heterosexual and mechanical perspective, concepts such as legality, birth control and consent were not properly explained to me until I was about 17 or 18 when I began following some feminist blogs on tumblr, which is pretty appalling, though my mother had had very open conversations with me about birth control and healthy sexual relationships prior to this. The extent of my ignorance regarding consent and legal definitions of rape had an impact when a friend was sexually assaulted, it was not until after that I was made aware that her situation classed as rape and should have been prosecuted, i feel very guilty still for not having been able to offer her better support and advice at the time.
  4. When I was in school, a cultural troupe visited our school and staged street drama in our school premises. The objective of the drama was to spread message against early child marriage. They played the story about how a Grade V girl's parents decided to marry her off without her knowledge and the consequences aftermath. They talked about sex and reproductive health issues and the trouble the girl landed in following early marriage. In course of drama they touched upon issues of contraceptives (condom and abstinence from sex at that age). Then I only vaguely got what they were driving at though the drama was highly emotional. I was explained later what they meant by couple of senior colleagues
  5. No one taught me. I learnt by my friends actually they also learnt from informally. Even I did not know how we deliver baby (I thought it’s happen by rectum.) We don’t have such materials’ to lean sex education. If we have, we don’t have practice. Anyway finally I learnt it after my marriage by practice. Husband too.
  6. I learnt about sex and pregnancy in my elementally school (Primary school) by our school matron and senior woman teacher who brought a drama entertainers with a play acting how a girl was chested out of her parents home over early pregnancy with classmate who later also abandoned her due lack of money for up it is here after that we got a slogan saying.... (Sex Before Marriage!!!) It later became a song.
  7. When I was a very small child, my parents picked up the book "Where Did I Come From?" by Peter Mayle. It's full of adorable illustrations of sperm in top hats, and very really it's very straightforward. My mom read it to me hundreds of times, and I don't ever remember her blushing. At any rate, when I was old enough to read, I read it to my younger sister. As I read the part about intercourse, she gaped at me. I read her something about how the man was feeling very loving towards the woman and wanted to be as close to her as possible, so he put his penis inside of her vagina. My younger sister, aged five, was mortified. She ran to my mother and demanded to know if it was true. My mother said, "Yes, it is true." My sister was disgusted. "Why would anybody DO that?!" Mom didn't miss a beat. "Because it feels really really good."
  8. I was interested in zoology from a very early age, so I found a lot out for myself. My eldest sister then rounded off my sexual education with advice about contraception choices and relationships. My mother's contribution consisted of letting me watch films like 'Women in Love'! I'm pretty certain she was too embarrassed to tell me much about the subject.
  9. My mum purchased a copy of the book 'Let's talk about sex' by Robie Harris when I was around 10 and my brother 8. Our friends would always want to read it/look at the pictures when they came round. I was so embarrassed but do remember it being quite informative at the time.
  10. J'ai été imprégnée de la sexualité à travers des chants que j'entendais les femmes chanter durant les mariages ou durant les noces auxquels tout le monde assistait. J'ai perçu les premières bribes de l'acte sexel à travers les danses que les jeunes filles plus âgées organisaient dans la rue. Souvent, une femme portait un sexe féminin en bois et une autre femme un sexe masculin en bois aussi. En dansant, elles se rapprochaient l'une de l'autre et simulaient le coït et la jouissance. Pour moi, tout cela n'était qu'un jeu. C'est à la puberté qu'une amie m'a dit que si je me laissais trop serrer la main par un garçon, je risquais de tomber enceinte et que c'était très douloureux.
  11. My father. Sadly a young girl went missing from the apartment building we lived at. They found her massacred body and arrested a man for sexual assault and murder. I didn't understand what all this meant. My dad used this as a teaching moment and very scientifically explained it to me. Hmm. probably the reason I entered the VAW sector.
  12. No one! Learnt about in the biology class in the 7th grade.
  13. What is dispute for them is the 1/25 part of health education about sexuality, gender, homosexuality and human rights. They believe that it has to be forbidden to talk with children about sex, pregnancy, masturbation in the school (and probably everywhere else). But they do not and they do not want to understand that children will hear or practice these things anyway. I would be happy if someone talked to me about those things when I was younger. It would be easier for me. And it is a parent's and a teacher's job to do. And it should be legal.
  14. But what really makes me angry is current situation in my country (Croatia). The minister of education wanted (and I believe he will) make the health education as an integrated part of all other school subjects. The health education would include informations about health, hygiene, food, addiction (alcohol, drugs...), problems, sexuality and gender... Everything that has a really main importance in our lives and something that we can't just run off. But, unfortunately, since we live in a stagnant country, some catholic associations raised their voices and they made a petition signing events in the whole country, many people still agree with them, but also many signed the petition by fraud.
  15. In the second grade (I was 8) our teacher gave us a picture book so we found out that children are made by mom and dad. But that was all. We actually thought that we were made because of kisses and the big love :) When I was eleven, we learned (also in school) why and how women are having period. My mom told me about period also. After that, I was 9 or 10 (I entered puberty early) and than I started to buy some teen magazines (in my country that was magazine Teen for example) and there were some stories, questions from readers etc. about sex, pregnancy and everything. After that I was 17 and I had my first boyfriend. When we broke up almost 2 years after, I still didn't know some basic stuffs about pregnancy and sex. Today I am 25 and I can say I know the most of it. but still I believe I've learned it "by the way", on the Internet or in talk with some of my friends. No one ever really told us anything really important, not teachers, not parents... We were always left to ourselves.
  16. En Guatemala, existen fundamentalismos religiosos que han influido en las políticas educativas, por lo que en las Escuelas no se enseñaba educación sexual, solamente a diferenciar los órganos genitales femeninos y masculinos. Millones de mujeres hemos conocido de los embarazos como producto de las relaciones sexuales, estando ligados intrínsicamente, sin que se pudieran evitar o prevenir. Hay una gran cantidad de incestos, anticoncepción insatisfecha, embarazos no deseados, violaciones sexuales, abortos y suicidios. Hay niñas pariendo desde los 9 años.
  17. From a pornography book that my friends and I got (probably from her older brother, something with Xavier in the title). We would read it under a tree and laugh (of course because we thought everything in it was so weird). I remember learning (maybe in the 5th grade) that "making love" was the same thing as what I learned in the book and I couldn't believe it! How could "love" be associated with those behaviors? I guess you could say I learned everything on the street. My mother didn't talk to me about these things, she only handed me pads when I got my period. I'm sure there was a health class in middle school or high school, but neither had the impact on me that those earlier experiences had. I do things very differently with my kids. In fact, my girlfriend & i had a "coming of age" ceremony for my daughter when she got her period. It was very sweet.
  18. I think the first time I heard about sex was when I was five years old. My mom was giving me a bath and my older sister (then 11 years old) walked in and asked my mom something about sex. My mom was blunt and said, "Sex is when a man puts his penis in a girl's vagina." Despite having heard this, I continued to think that sex was just rolling around in a bed with someone you liked. It wasn't until I was 10 years old and heard my peers (classmates, etc) talking about sex that I starting becoming curious about issues of human sexuality. I then started reading my older sisters' magazines (like Seventeen, CosmoGirl, Teen, etc) and learned about contraception, anatomy, and such. I still had questions about sex, but I never felt comfortable asking my parents, so I learned from websites like gURL (a website for teenage girls).
  19. Hi. Talking or even thinking about sex and pregnancy was and is forbidden. Because girls are virgin before marriage. Only I learned about pregnancy in High School by my Biology male teacher who happened to be non-Muslim. But my husband thought me about sex. My cousin who was studying business not science did not know anything so ever about it also. So she was in-trouble first time in her Honeymoon. It was 1980.
  20. Nobody taught me. I learn from peers. Whether the information they gave was correct or not. I know my illiterate mother could never gather the courage to talk to me about it. Thats why today, I have created a small or4ganization that counsel women and girls about their sexuality. We encourage mothers to open up and talk with their girls. Also, we arrange girls with different mentors who are not their relatives and put them in touch at least once a week so they can talking on 'burning issues'
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